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There are tons of things you can do to win over a lady you like, but unfortunately there are also plenty of things you can do to ruin your chances with a particular woman who has caught your eye. Let’s take a look at some of the worst ways you can mess up.
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6 Having an Agenda
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You know when you go into the DMV and you just want to do what you need to to get what you want and then get the hell out of there? Women can sense if you have any sort of urgency at all about you, just like those surly ladies at the DMV. Don’t be in a constant state of trying to get from point A to point B with them; if you let things happen naturally, they’ll appreciate it.
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5 Not Realizing When They Have Something Special
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A great relationship isn’t about wild feelings and gushing romanticism, it’s about happiness, support, communication, stability and fun. Never take those things for granted.
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4 Always Going for the Hotter One
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The hotter a woman is, the more we will make justifications for why we really like her. But looks are something we can easily get too used to and take for granted. It’s a woman’s energy, passion, companionship and overall personality that dull the impact of the importance of looks.
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3 Not Picking Up on Her Hints That She Wants to Have Sex
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Being dumb enough to miss her hints that she wants you to kiss her or to move further is only excusable for so long. If she’s new in your life and you miss your opportunity, then she’ll probably be pretty be frustrated and you may have missed your chance entirely. Remember, while men often turn on like a light, women often turn off like a light: immediately.
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2 Mistaking Passion for Compassion
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Passion happens during the first four to six months (commonly known as the “honeymoon phase”) where you see your partner as perfect and your happiness as everlasting. Passion drops off sharply after this and if you don’t have a bond of compassion that has been growing at a steady rate, then you may find yourself broken up and wondering how things changed so quickly.
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1 Thinking You’re Entitled
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Men see beautiful women on TV, the Internet, in magazines and in real life. In fact, we often see gorgeous women and don’t notice the not-so-nice looking ones, so much so that it seems like there are a ton more hotties in the world than there are in reality. So when we see the guy get the girl in a movie or notice a cluster of hot friends at a bar, some men may think they are owed someone like that as well. No one owes us anything, not the world and not a random good-looking woman. Going into a “pick up” or a date with a thinly-veiled bitter, arrogant sense of entitlement is never a good strategy.
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(Previously published on February 13, 2013.)